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November 12, 2019
Codependency in active addiction is the mortal enemy of recovery. Reliance on others for your self-worth, financial security, and mental health is a recipe for disaster, especially when substance abuse becomes part of the equation. Codependency leaves us vulnerable to malicious and manipulative people who seek to take advantage of that susceptibility. Codependent relationships between two people trapped in active addiction only serves to perpetuate suffering in both. Breaking that cycle of codependency and addiction is critical to building a strong, healthy future.
Codependence can be hard to recognize in yourself. From the inside, it feels like love, commitment, passion. Toxic, codependent behaviors are not the same and can lead to serious, potentially dangerous situations if left unchecked. Remember that codependence is not limited to romantic relationships, either. It can appear in families and friendships, too, resulting in enabling behaviors that feed addiction. If you recognize any of the following signs of codependency, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationships:
Addiction recovery is all about breaking toxic bonds and replacing them with positive life skills and coping mechanisms. When it comes to codependent relationships, that means helping you move on from toxicity and build healthier relationships moving forward. This means learning to put yourself as a priority, forming and enforcing boundaries, and knowing when to walk away. While it is entirely possible to restructure a toxic, codependent relationship into a mutually supportive, healthy one, we must be prepared to make the best decisions for ourselves.
Just as addiction counseling helps you uncover the roots your substance abuse disorder, therapy can also help you uproot the origins of codependency and mend those wounds. Like all other lifestyle changes, learning to let go of codependent behaviors and become self-reliant takes time and daily effort. Begin today with small steps that will benefit you and your ongoing recovery.